Our days are often so overly packed with commitments, schedules, appointments, errands — you name it. Not to mention all of the hats we wear as multi – tasking, super efficient, on top of her game super women, ha, ha! No wonder we are often left feeling SPENT at the end of the day doing everything we can to enjoy a glass (or two — no judging, here!) of vino, possibly in peace…for a minute?! Self – care…what the hell is that? Who has time for anything extra? A clone would be a wonderful thing at times, right? Or maybe even a friendly robot, like from the Jetsons??? Yeah, a cute one, please! 😉
Ok, ok, so what if you made a commitment to yourself to carve out a just a few minutes at the beginning & end of each day for you? A few minutes to start your day, set your intention, set your internal GPS and do something for yourself that kicked off your day that made you actually FEEL really f-ing great about yourself? In turn those few powerful minutes work to serve others in a much bigger, more present and loving way. Would you do it? Then, for a bonus you started ending the day in the same way, like sort of a decompression of sort. A short mini routine to help you wind down mentally & physiologically, to relax and in turn you actually slept better and woke up more refreshed. Sounds. Like. Heaven.
Getting intentional about time, how it is spent and how it is used speaks volumes in how the quality of life feels, the types of choices made and the way we spend our ever precious minutes of the day.
Try it. You be the judge.
Maybe it’s having a cup of tea or coffee in the morning and jotting down a few things that you WANT in your life and believe in. Pick yourself up a really fun or pretty journal that you actually look forward to opening and writing in. It doesn’t have to be long, it can be as easy as: Positive change happens for me, quickly, Miracles happen daily, Opportunity is everywhere, I meet incredible, bold & kick ass people everyday, I truly believe I can have it all, etc…simple. Perhaps it’s listening to a positive podcast or YouTube Video from an inspirational mentor or reading a blog. There’s a lot of options here. For me, my morning routine is a non – negotiable. Traveling, in strange places, super early mornings (like 3:30 a.m. I am talking), wherever I am, my morning routine always consists of:
- A vitamin cocktail of all of the yummy vitamins my body needs, daily – followed by a swig of aloe vera juice (great gut tamer)
- A cup of hot peppermint tea, while journaling my intention for the day and what in my life I am creating and what I am open to receiving — and just as important, no longer tolerating
- A form of exercise **
- My 2 – 3 minute skincare routine, I mean, of course!**
- A bit of eye & lip love, usually a messy ‘do and something comfortably cute for clothes on my bod, depending on my mood **
- ** all while listening to a mentor, training, podcast, etc…raising my vibe & growing myself
Some days, all before 7 a.m. Are all days easy to drag myself out of bed, nope. Does it take some really loud internal self talk, on some days, you bet. But, the pay off is so, so worth it.
I have found by implementing these easy pieces of my routine into the beginning of my day I am literally READY to tackle the day, negativity bounces off of me way easier and I seriously feel so much better about myself, enabling me to pour into others so much more and without a heavy burden of that feeling of pressure on my shoulders. It’s like I strengthen my virtual shield to repel bullshit and negativity while I maximize my super sexy woman cape to be capable of more than I ever thought I could. This shit works, seriously.
I only wish
I would have discovered the power of this years ago to relieve that heavy pressure. So thankful I have in my life, now!
Give yourself some time to adjust though, you have to stay consistent with this new routine to really experience all of it’s power.
You got this, stay with it, pump yourself up and for heaven’s sake, give yourself a few minutes of self love a day – you SO deserve it.
If you are curious about more ideas on how to incorporate some kind of magical morning into your routine, reach out, let’s connect – I’d love to get to know you a little bit and brainstorm!
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I get it, change can be intimidating. As humans, I feel like we can tend to think about change as being something huge, instantly noticeable & even a little bit scary. It’s like we came up with this make-believe story that for change to happen, it has to be something like a life event, change in status, move across country, dramatic hair cut or color, etc…
In my opinion, while those big, epic changes are exhilarating and easy to see, it is the everyday micro – changes that don’t get enough credit. You know, in our minute to minute decisions in the way we respond, think, feel, act, move, eat,speak — all of it. These little things all add up to be HUGE overtime and often, something we can immediately notice in our mood, who we attract and our minute by minute reactions & feelings impacting every single thing, like a row of dominoes.
Let’s take something that we all do, self talk. That inner dialogue that happens quite often throughout the day. Granted, surely there is an argument to be made that everyone’s inner critic is different, sometimes a cheerleader, other times a she – devil, but it still remains. What if every time that inner critic piped up with something negative you shut it down? Have you ever noticed how much those quiet thoughts are there? What they are saying? How they are speaking to you? How would they make a close friend or a loved one close to you feel if you said those exact things to them over & over, & over?Would that person feel like worth anything? That what they were striving for was worth it? Would those words make them feel loved or the exact opposite?
This is the thing, the more you can take notice and instead of being so hard on yourself, you actually celebrate more with that inner self critic. Celebrate the small wins. I am talking about the really minor ones…. waking up 5 minutes earlier for some “you” time, taking a few deep breaths when stressed, holding the door for a stranger, having a salad for lunch, the simple, little things.
Micro – changes. One small choice affects the next and the next. Exactly like how a ripple moves over a pond. You do get to choose your ripple effect and all it takes is noticing one small thing at a time.
Take notice over the next day how and what your inner self is saying to you. How you feel and if it is anything less than how you would treat someone who is so important to you. Then, change that dialogue, seriously celebrate the small things and watch how your new day unfolds.
Love yourself first and you will be amazed how much more love you can give. I so wish I would have learned this many, many years ago – but I am grateful I know now and continue to work on it as I change & evolve in my own life.
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We’ve heard it, read it and from time to time many of us experience what true and utter confidence feels like. Like you can literally DO anything, right? Totally unstoppable. Don’t give a second thought to what anyone else thinks (in the most loving way of course), in your zone and nothing is going to stop you, you won’t let it. And then, poof, maybe one day something happens out of your control and throws you unsteady, wavering, on the edge just barely able to talk yourself into getting dressed in the morning not let alone put in any effort. Or, maybe you are on the roller coaster ride — you know, one morning you wake up owning the day and while this happens quite often, but still have a few days a week or a month you just don’t feel it.
So how exactly do you recover? How do you just snap back into that amazing feeling and place? How can it be here one day and feel like it is gone the next? Truthfully, it is ALWAYS there, it is up to you (me included) to recognize it, even on the most shittiest of days when anything and everything feels like it is being turned upside down. HANG IN THERE. Trust that you WILL bounce back and be freaking better than ever. How you react during those moments are telling and lay the groundwork for growth, expansion & personal evolvement (ha, is that a word?! SP is telling me no!), but you know what I am saying.
No, I don’t mean standing naked in front of the mirror or streaking across your backyard (or RV Park / Hotel in my case) – strip away the expensive handbags, sunglasses, uber photo filters that erase every laugh line and slims the face just perfectly, forget the size “mini – me” pants size obsession, thigh gap goal and no root days, ever. I mean really, take the pressure off! I am talking about naked confidence, WHO and WHAT you feel at your your core. Inside, out without all of the flashy stuff. Truuust me when I say I like fun, new & sometimes expensive items, a sexy lipstick and a great hair day, but take it all away and what do you have? That’s my point. Once that is paid attention to, worked on (yes, exactly like a muscle) and developed more & more from the inside out — those days, those days you are like where the hell did my confidence go become fewer & fewer in-between as you rock that inner, naked confidence regardless.
I totally get it, it can be really hard to love yourself in a world that is filter crazy, photo shopped and told through carefully posed photos on social media. We are all guilty from time to time, but come back, always come back to YOU and work that inner confidence muscle that gets stronger if you spend some time with it.
You are doing just fine.
You are EXACTLY where you need to be at this moment.
You have so much to give, just being you.
You are worthy of every single thing that you receive and more.
You ARE truly doing amazing.
Let go of being so hard on yourself. Love the imperfections, the silly mishaps, the freaking roller coaster of life and laugh it off. That’s what makes you, you.
You have everything you NEED, right inside of YOU. Go ahead, give it a little attention and notice what happens. 😉
Do you ever have those conversations with friends when all of a sudden, WHAM….something just crazy triggers in your mind and you are like, “Why didn’t I realize that before?!” Maybe it’s the fact that we are so present over other times and the thoughts are able to come pouring in, or perhaps it is just the right time. Recently, I was chatting with some friends and answering questions about what I do and WHY I was hit with so many realizations and I had to share one of them, right here.
In addition to being an Event Manager by trade and on the road about 10 months out of the year, I am also a Consultant with Rodan + Fields.
I was NOT looking for an opportunity by any means when I found Rodan + Fields, I was looking for a possible solution, that’s it.
I had just gotten off of the phone with my Momma who was wrapping up with her 36th radiation treatment and she was and IS doing amazing. She never, ever complained about a thing and was going to hop on a plane right after her last treatment to celebrate her granddaughter’s first birthday. She did mention to me that she could really tell where on her skin all of the treatment was focused and while she was trying many things, there was still a redness and sensitive area that was visible and just not improving at ALL with anything she tried. I hung up the phone and I thought to myself, surely after all this woman has gone through I can find something to help with this concern. So, I went to Google and started searching. I then remembered seeing a B & A on my sister’s friends FB page. I reached out to her, asked what it was and for some info. Then, naturally, I proceeded to do my own research, because that’s what I do!
I wanted to find out who these Rodan + Fields people were… Well, yes, they certainly checked out and quite impressively I may add. I discovered they were the Drs. Who created Proactiv and so much more. At that point, I knew what I was sending my Mom was from a trusted and credible source, not some fake company with jenky cream. I sent it to her and asked that she use it while in AZ.
As many of us know, life is busy and gets even busier when visiting family, so we really didn’t get to catch up full on until about 2 weeks later.
She called me, was standing in the shower with a towel wrapped around her and said, “I cannot even tell where the treatment area was. All of the redness & irritation is gone.” My heart swelled with happiness and my eyes with tears. All I wanted to do was take away one less thing for her to worry about after all she had been through – and it worked. ❣️ Then, I started thinking….what if I could connect people with these products to do the same thing for them?! I mean, why should anyone have to go through more than they need to when solutions exist, right? In all honesty I am a 99 potential solution girl, not 99 problems.
At that exact moment, for the first time in my life I was struggling with Cystic Acne. Utterly embarrassed, I kept thinking I had no idea where it came from and had no idea why, but clearly looking back now, I was in complete denial of what was happening in my life.
I was in the midst of figuring out what went wrong with LASIK eye surgery in not one, but BOTH eyes permanently damaging my corneas, my Momma was rocking through battling breast cancer, but I wanted to be there to help her as much as possible AND for the first time in my life I walked away from a project that was NOT what I thought it was going be and put me in a really bad spot, jeopardizing what I believed in. As a Freelancer, that also means consciously walking away from a paycheck, without another solid contract – but for me, choosing integrity was the right choice. Alllll while trying to remain calm as Crohn’s Disease thrives on stress!!! Ha, and I was wondering WHY my face was a wreck!
Eyiyi….I had been dealing with this for a solid 8 months at this point.
So, I ordered the line for acne and let me be really clear here (no pun intended;-)), it was not overnight, but over time the Cystic acne became less, it felt less painful, started to clear up, the redness began to diminish and even a little glow in my complexion started to come out. Soon, I wasn’t subconscious about wearing a pony tail or messy bun any longer and before I knew it, I was Cystic – acne free all with no drugs, no prescriptions…just skincare that was made to work with each product creating real results. I was floored. Now, reality check here, I was never ever the girl with gorgeous porcelain skin, I was way too much of a sun goddess ️ — but wow oh wow have I ever improved my skin to literally have the best skin of my life, no messy foundation all in my mid – 30’s and here on out! I can’t even imagine what it would look like now if I didn’t try….or 20 years from now.
So, as I am talking with my friends this weekend I realized I am so, so grateful for being open to trying something new and finding the patience to persevere that lead to not only a solution, but a beautiful restoration of confidence and a desire to help others. I have always held myself to the standard that if I don’t love something, I won’t do it, I won’t back it (hence the quitting reference up above) and I sure as hell won’t be connected to it, that is a promise I intend to keep in all things life. ❣️
Truly, if you are curious about what R + F can do for you, and that is as simple as just being great skin care, (you don’t need any major concerns) that improves the health and future condition of your skin without wasting money on stuff that just doesn’t work, we should chat. Please do reach out. I would love to listen and see how I can help.
If you want to help to reach others who need a solution, feel free to show some love and share, comment, love and tag on this post. Together, we are better.
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Keep on being AWESOME!!
10 Ways to Condition Your Mindset, NOW
Can you think of a time you followed your cravings? Like really, full – on, with-out a doubt, even if it didn’t make sense at the time? How did it feel to take the leap and follow what you really wanted to do? Freeing, exhilarating, maybe even a bit crazy, but just. so right….
Chances are if you are here reading this post you may have come over from my LinkedIn page and are getting a few more details other than what’s on my profile page. Or, maybe you were clicking around and wound up here. Either way, welcome & I am happy you are here.
Cont’d from LinkediN….
Creative leader who believes in following your cravings, the path that leads to what you truly want to do, regardless of it makes sense or not at this exact moment.
My mentality has always been such that you spend so many hours a day working over a course of many years that it should be something you actually WANT to do, right? I enjoy serving & helping people in a way that makes them feel happy and unstoppable. Because, why NOT? I truly believe that you CAN have whatever it is that you set your mind & heart on, it’s the belief that is the true test.
A Snippet of My Story
After graduating college, I spent six months living & working in Australia. From there (like we all do) I grew from many challenges, rejections & failures and continue to do so daily. Upon returning to the States, working (3) jobs and doing the actual career search I kept tuning into that “inner whisper” that was telling me my dream career was out there. The craziest part was that I remember turning down what would seem like the perfect opportunity for a new College grad, only ONE week into my search: great salary, benefits, full – time, around the house from my hometown. Seriously, a new grad’s dream offer. I was sitting in the parking lot of an Outlet Mall, getting ready to go in for my shift at an Amish Style Restaurant. My cell rang and I took the call, literally hanging onto every word, envisioning what my day, week and future might look like. It was the perfect fit, on paper, but my heart was screaming “NOOOO” and before I knew it, the words were coming out of my mouth, and I politely declined the offer. The person on the line was stunned and I’m pretty sure that for a moment my heart stopped as I was processing what just happened, what I chose to do. You bet I had an “Oh shit!” moment and then I let it go because I knew I was setting the tone for the rest of my important decision-making process that would happen over and over again in my life. Yes, in case you are wondering, that was an interesting decision to explain to my parents, but at the end of the day, it was my choice and I owned it.
Where to Now?
I honestly had no idea what the actual “title” was of what I was searching for, but I knew what I wanted, I could FEEL it. I remember writing everything I wanted down on paper to the final detail and then finally, after what felt like was forever and a full-time job in itself (the J.O.B. search), I found the posting that fit every single one of my details. I couldn’t believe it. It turns out the Experiential Marketing world was where I wanted to be. I remember creating my CV & tailoring my resume just so, sending a digital and hard copy and closing my eyes, saying a little positive thought and kissing the envelope before I sent it away. Ohhh my word!!! I know, perhaps a bit much, but I was NOT holding back what so ever. The call came, they wanted to interview me, we went three rounds. Everything just felt right. Little did I know my phone was going to ring and the potential Company explained to me that as much as they LOVED me, they had to offer the position to someone in the office who needed field experience, but they would keep me in mind. Ok, not going to fib here, I was completely devastated but I completely understood and knew I would continue to persevere. The weekend came & went and Monday morning my phone rang again. It turns out the girl’s father worked for the competitor and that was too close of ties for the Client to be comfortable with…they offered me the position! Fast forward over 10 years now and I pinch myself because I have been traveling this beautiful Country managing, leading & creating interactive events that guests truly do get to walk away with an incredible experience and memories. Trust me when I say this story is a lot more colorful when told in person, but hopefully, I have started to paint the picture.
Decision Time, Again
Having been fortunate enough to understand time freedom and what it truly feels like to follow your heart and love what you do, I made the decision to become a virtual business owner. As many times it does, the opportunity came unexpectedly, but I knew it was right for me. Personally, I consider myself among the unique & bold others who have never worked a 9 – 5. It is a blessing, perhaps in disguise at first because I truly was able to understand what time freedom meant from a very young age. It’s like I have the choice to stay or go whenever I choose and work comes right along with me.
Life shouldn’t be taken for granted, we only know this exact moment in time. I have the privilege of coaching some of the most incredible people, who WANT to live life on their own terms, achieve success and keep dreaming bigger.
All of These Words for One Message…
Don’t give up one what you want to do, what you want to create, where you want to go. Keep going. Listen IN to those cravings, you have them for a reason, truly you do. It is amazing what happens when you trust yourself and follow your heart. Do it! This is YOUR life. Do What YOU LOVE.
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Oh and in case you haven’t told yourself yet, today; you ARE destined for amazing things in THIS life.
If you could choose ONE, just ONE Super Hero to be for a day, who would it be and why? Try not to over think this, just jot down who pops into your head at first thought.
— For me, it was Wonder Woman, followed by Batman. They’re both bad – ass, look out for the well-being of others are incredibly strong and the one thing that really motivates & fuels me is that they don’t ever give up and they SHOW UP because they know that people NEED them and they don’t want to let people down.
What is at least one superpower you have? And, don’t skip this one, you DO have a superpower, actually, most likely more than one. This is not the time to be humble. Maybe your superpower is that you are an incredible listener, super organized, hilarious or maybe you’re full of a beautiful energy. Whatever it is, it is YOURS’ no one elses’. Because, you see even if it is similar, they can’t do it just like you can.
Ok, now, make a quick visual & mental note – How are you sitting, standing, reading this blog post at this EXACT moment? What is your current body posture? Are you huddled over your computer, standing straight up or maybe sitting on a balance ball right now? How would you describe your body posture most of the day?
I promise this will make sense….
What if I told you that you could possibly change the outcome of a situation with a power pose? Sounds too simple, right? That’s just it. As humans, we try to overcomplicate so many things when the basic, small shifts can lead to a much more desirable and positive outcome. But wait, what exactly is a power pose? Think about the way your favorite super hero stands. Upright, chest sightly outward, arms on hips or even up in the air, opening up a little bit more. Those are all examples of a power pose. Try it, stand up straight, take a deep breathe, close your eyes, exhale out and envision for about a minute exactly what you would like to happen.
This past fall, I had the honor of listening to a TED Talk by Amy Cuddy who shares the effect of a “power posing” and how simply changing your body language can truly impact the end result. She also got really vulnerable in her talk and shared how she pushed through re-gaining her once lost identity when she felt utterly and completely out of answers. This is worth your time, I promise you! Watch Here
Make it a beautiful day and don’t forget your virtual cape on the way out of the door !
Be A Quiet Strength.
Most Importantly, Just Be You.
Because YOU have everything you need to be the very best version of yourself. Dig deep, don’t conform to blend and always be true to yourself – the rest will take care of itself. 😉
Here’s a quote one of my favorite Barre Instructor’s ends every one of her sessions with. It can also be found hanging in her studio – “You are STRONGER than you think you are & far more beautiful inside and out than you will probably ever realize. Namasté
Call it a recharge, alone time, daily meditation, call it what you will — just do it. I don’t know anyone who can give, give, give and not give to themselves, first. It is not selfish or self centered, it is actually necessary so you can give your best and more than you could ever imagine to the people, things & stuff that is important in your life.
My momma is a selfless lover & giver to everyone at anytime of the day, dropping anything she needed to fit more in. She never stopped to give to herself though and that didn’t go unnoticed by me. I have recognized and learned that if I allow my schedule to get too intense, I am being pulled in more ways possible and the sleep clock # keeps getting smaller, my life snowballs into a hot mess and I am good for nothing. I owe it to myself to do what I need to to be able to serve others at my very best and that doesn’t just happen. Instead of saying “I don’t have time for anything for myself” while that all too often feels true, for sure, make. the.time. Set the alarm for 15 minutes earlier, stop for take out, let the house be dirty, pay a neighborhood kid to mow the lawn, create a carpool pick up. Get creative & do what you need to do, but make it happen, first for you and then watch and feel how much more present, energized & involved in their lives you are!
Self love is something especially woman struggle with. Sometimes we feel guilty for taking time for ourselves because it is taking away from time with the husband, kids, boyfriend, relatives, friends, career, whatever it may be. Crazy, but it is just the opposite, setting a little time aside for yourself is actually going to fuel your energy level and amp you up to be the best you can be for those very special people, I promise you!
Go on, I dare ya, try it for a week – a little time a day just for you and take notice of how you feel and how amazing your world becomes. 😉 Hell, start with just ONCE a week if once a day is too overwhelming to think about how to schedule. Oh and it doesn’t have to be hours on end, 20 minutes is a fantastic start, a monthly pedi, journaling, catching up with a good book or friend — whatever you need, listen and your gut will tell you!